There is one important sign of love. Its main feature. Ancient philosophers spoke about it and psychologist Fromm wrote about it in his book on the art of love.
Here is a sign: A loving person cannot be a spectator. Fromm wrote many profound thoughts on love; many guidelines for those who must learn to love. And I mentioned it only once. And this is the main sign of love. A lover cannot be a spectator.
“Let a person solve his own problems, get out of trouble, succeed, deal with habits, recover, cope, improve his emotional state, correct behavior, solve problems, become harmonious.” It is right. Only you, the audience, why will she need you later? When she achieves everything herself and copes with everything. He who sits on the ground floor and crunches popcorn, watching with interest our jumps and efforts, does not really like us.
Anyone who watches our personal drama or tragedy from the audience doesn’t really like us. Even if sobbing in particularly sad places. Or turns away – in the terrible. Anyone who looks at how we fight in a fight with the enemy in the arena – hardly loves us with all his heart. That’s why we are not interested in the audience. And no wonder we disperse in different directions after a drama or a fight.
Thank you for the applause. For attention. For presence. But then we will manage ourselves. We have learned to cope. Come to the show – so we will tell them. And don’t forget to pay for the tickets. Spectators must buy tickets.
And lovers – they are always with us. In a melodrama, in a comedy, or in a thriller, in a tragedy, they play with us and for us. Because those who love are not spectators. Never.